12 Days Of Christmas
This holiday season, Best Mommy Life wants to gift you with 12 days of restoration. Each day we will post one thing that we want to challenge you to do, and this one thing will challenge you to grow, will encourage you to change, and will gift you with something tangible to make your journey in this life a little bit easier. There is no gift better than what heals the soul, down deep where the core resides, to ease your life’s struggles and better face each day. We certainly hope you enjoy them and USE them to their fullest potential now and each day forward.
"Be present and in the moment..."
Be present and in the moment with whatever you are doing. Multitasking has it’s benefits, and we’ve grown so accustomed to multitasking in our fast-paced environment that it has poured over into times that we should not multitask. There is always an unspoken need to get things done faster and more efficiently that we sometimes forget the importance of enjoying the present without interruption. Life goes by so fast, and there are many times that I regret… especially with my children… not stopping for a bit and enjoying things with them.
I look around when out in public, and I see people that spend quite a lot of time on their phones instead of connecting with the people around them. Although I certainly am not judging them (because sometimes it’s OK to be on your phone!) I can’t help but think… gosh, I don’t really want to be absent from the present. I wish this for not only myself, but for others. I hope that humankind as a whole can step back and enjoy the present more often than not.
I hope that young parents know that their children will not stay young forever, and in a very short time they will miss the years they had with them when they were young. They will come and go faster than we could ever think, and once they are gone they can’t come back again. I hope that each person knows the importance of spending time with their parents while they are still alive, and enjoying them while they can. This all starts with being present in today, and enjoying the time we have with each other.
"I can’t help but think… gosh, I don’t really want to be absent from the present. I wish this for not only myself, but for others."
Sometimes it’s hard to relate with our children, especially when they are teenagers. Watching YouTube videos of Minecraft or Roblox with our children, because they enjoy them, probably seems like the least enjoyable thing we could spend our time doing. Maybe we don’t enjoy basketball, soccer, or some other sport our children are interested in. However, taking a moment to enjoy the things that they enjoy can speak volumes to them for their confidence, and allow us to spend time with them while doing something that gives them joy.
It might require us to step outside our boxes and do something different, but enjoying them sometimes means giving up a little bit of comfort. The benefits of being in their world gives them a sense of security, and helps us to feel better about ourselves and our parenting later on down the road.
During dinner time, put the phones away and turn off the television. Spend time talking to each other and telling each other about what happened that day. When our children eat and finish ahead of us, we do not allow them to get up from the table right away. They know that they are required to sit at the table for a certain time and spend time together as a family.
This may be the only way we are able to reach out to each other during the day. With homework and chores to take care of, setting aside this time specifically for being together and communicating with each other is so important. Otherwise, we get caught up doing our own things and not stopping to enjoy each other during the week. Make time to specifically enjoy each other and don’t let anything else get in the way of it.
"During dinner time, put the phones away and turn off the television. Spend time talking to each other and telling each other about what happened that day."
Do your best to avoid worrying about things that don’t involve the present situation. Sometimes it’s hard to focus on enjoying the present when we are distracted by some issue that is lingering in the back of our minds. Stress and anxiety stem from these types of worries, and usually there’s nothing we can really do about it at the present time anyway. If you need to, write it down and tell yourself it’s ok to accomplish the task or focus attention to that problem later on. Set aside a time each day to focus on your list, but also carve out time to NOT focus on your list. Enjoying the present is just as important for our wellbeing as anything that might be causing us to worry.
Know your triggers. If you are already aware of something that might set you off into a foul mood, such as mindless drivers, a certain person that always seems to rub you the wrong way, or even upcoming financial obligations… choose now to make a better decision of how you REALLY want to react to achieve the best end result. We can avoid an enormous amount of stress by preparing ourselves to react to situations that we know are eventually going to happen.
Take a few deep breaths when the inevitable occurs, and trick yourself into feeling something different when one of these things happens, even if it’s a humble brag or a kudos to yourself for being the better person. Later on, you will be better off for it because instead of focusing on being upset… you will have already let it go. You will be able to focus on what is in the present, instead of what is in the past.
"The next time you are with your family or friends, be there and enjoy every second of the time you are sharing with them. "
There are so many reasons to live in the present. Not only is it the only time we are able to experience life, in full, but in so many ways it helps our social skills, our psychological wellbeing, and how others (especially our children!) relate to us and perceive us. Quality time can be something we achieve without having to set aside a specific time for it when we are present and in the moment on a daily basis. The next time you are with your family or friends, be there and enjoy every second of the time you are sharing with them. You will be grateful that you did!
Happy Holidays From Best Mommy Life
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